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How someone makes decisions is really the key to how impactful and successful they can be with what they want to create in life. Depending on
what part of the globe you are from decision-making can be a very different process. Many Americans pride themselves on and our national mythos is on how much freedom of choice we have and that our individual expression of selves is where ultimately decisions should come from and that in turn “The buck stops here.” to quote President Truman. Basically many American’s only feel comfortable with what they decide for themselves. However that can get pretty overwhelming and ineffective to say the least, so checking out, anti-depressants and procrastination delayed decision-making ensues. It’s almost politically incorrect to say that you want or need to have someone else make a choice for you. But when you do decide for yourself, is it really from and for yourself that you are basing your decision criteria from? And what is happening when you cannot decide for yourself? When is it better to hand over a
decision to someone else?
I think to be really effective in life and in leadership you have to have comfort with different forms of decision-making and occasionally stepping out of the known forms into something entirely unproven.
I have made some pretty interesting decisions in my life; some were great and others terrible. And from this I have to learn what is really driving my decision-makingand what is going on when I can’t make a
decision or choose poorly. I was born in Japan and lived there as an adult and small toddler. I also grew up in Texas. These are probably some of the most polar opposite styles in subconscious underpinnings for decision making: group decision-making with little to no challenging the system vs. boot-strapped super independence glorifying “I did it alone.” Needless to say I have been confused from time to time on which to use. But I think my confusion has been coming from really embracing one way and then being disappointed with one system and then really embracing and disappointed with another. It’s not that one system is wrong, it’s the assumption that one system has got it all right.
I now live in California in the Bay Area. It’s been described in many ways including: this is the best place on the planet for new ideas to meet the least amount of resistance.
I offer this as a way to say that please explore at a deep sub-conscious level where you are making your decisions from and that no one basic foundation is right for everyone or even every situation. I help myself, clients and their organizations understand what their sub-conscious beliefs are so they can then decide if those beliefs support what they want to create. I think freedom of choice is not that only you make all your own choices, but instead that you know when it’s best for you to decide or when it is better to hand off that choice to someone else better suited to help you decide. Its playing with sometimes it is best to be Japanese and consider the group, sometimes best to be Texan and consider the individual and sometimes best to come up with something entirely new … I guess that’s the Californian part of me ;-).
- Rev. Trella Davis, MBA
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