The following Posts are authored by varoius people (including myself) with the common thread being that they all had something powerful, supportive, inspiring and healing to say.
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You already have everything you need within. Well who hasn't heard that like a bunch in the spiritual/personal growth/sage advice realms. The Key is to just let yourself seeit, know it, believe it. Then you can act on it. So the question is what is the place you got hurt or payoff or the illusion that you are wedded to that "makes you safe", that keeps you from knowing/seeing the truth that you already have what you need to help you reach the lessons and highest potential of this life. And in so doing best help yourself towards your goals and dreams. That is the question. And for many, including myself, it is the question of the hurt heart.
Energetically I see the back of the heart chakra as how much are you owning your heart for yourself and the inner heart as where affinity, love, forgiveness, permission, acceptance of self live. In many body therapy modalities the middle of the back is called " no man's land" because it is just so difficult for most folks to engage in movement of some sort back there. Of course much in yoga specifically addresses this area.
Just funny to me how the "no man's land" is the place we need to get to the most, to get to answering what's behind the "Why" of we're not enough/complete/loveable/etc..
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When you talk about what you want and why you want it, there's usually less resistance within you than when you talk about what you want and how you're going to get it. When you pose questions you don't have answers for, like how, where, when, who, it sets up a contradictory vibration that slows everything down.
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Ok like I just gotta call like I have seen from time to time:
Enlightened today, Asshole tomorrow.
Just becuase someone has figured out their true (God bless 'em), doesnt mean they know your truth, your path, or what is right for you. So don't give up your seniority to another, just be inspired and learn from them if that is right.
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Compassion and the Illusion of Responsibility
Compassion sure does get thrown around in the Personal Growth, spiritual and religious venues a whole lot. Don’t mean to say that those not playing in those areas are not exploring compassion too but you know what I mean. I have been in quandary and confused about it because for myself there has been a lot of beliefs around service that have become servitude as well as inappropriate responsibility for others (i.e. pity, help that is not asked for, expectation that my support is appreciated, etc.) and expectations for responsibility for me. Been doing a lot of things in my life (and waaaaay many past-lives for that matter) based on the expectation of what it would create “out there” or what would I get from others. A ripe recipe for getting out of authenticity and getting into resentment is really the brass tacks of the matter here. I have, as a soul, spent considerable effort, energy and execution towards compassion and trying to explore its wisdom for myself. Thus in this lifetime, I have ended up unconsciously taking on others lessons, less-than-desirable energies, un-processed information, as well as giving away my own energy, healing, awareness, work, capabilities, information and other little things like oh … self-respect along the way. Great. This compassion thing like sucks.
But what!?! Not strive for compassion?!? It’s what some of the spiritual elite would have work towards on your path to enlightenment. Hmmm how is it that compassion for others is true? I have not formally studied the subject so maybe they know something about it I have missed. Well I started back with the basics. I looked up compassion in the dictionary:noun com·pas·sion 1. a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.
I.e. Pity and Responsibility in a nut shell.
Well folks I think that pity is a pretty massive and invalidating judgment. I am coming from the thought that God/Supreme Being/Source/That Special ‘Je ne sais quoi’ is not in a hurry for the “completion” of our development so we get more than a few tries at embodying and experiencing. As that premise is the case, any path is valid. And how can you judge another because honestly you don’t know what their path is, hell I am hoping to get my own figured out. And how can you really take responsibility for another? Or how can another be expected to take responsibility for you? With the premise of free will we can only truly take responsibility for ourselves. No more and no less (Please don’t understand me to be lumping kids, pet parakeets, etc. into this concept as I am not. Those and other examples of appropriate responsibility are a whole other matter.).
So back to compassion being a combo of pity and responsibility. Not what I really want to order on the blue plate special. Which begs the question then what is something to strive for with compassion? What is it about compassion that is relevant to a present time interpretation of the concept? I think that understanding, empathizing and accepting are a better starting place for an updated definition for compassion. This idea means that there is room for self-compassion as well as compassion for others. And thus a space for balance opens up. Also there is a place and a space for being who you are, really really…. like as Shrek-ish or whatever you are in this time and place. To be really seen and accepted is a great gift. The next step that affords is the freedom of choice to be great. If you are fundamentally acceptable right now (not like in 3 weeks after you have lost 7 more pounds) but RIGHT NOW, then your personal self is acceptable. The whole “I’m ok. You’re ok.” thing. That gives you and others this incredible permission to be. And when you, can with every fiber of your being know that you are valid, then literally the sky becomes the limit has to how you can choose to express that self and/or change. So responsibility for others coming from a place of joy or inspiration or genuine self-expression now can have the freedom to blossom but like a Haiku poem it is given boundaries and structure for always making it relevant to honest self-responsibility. We are still the captains of our own ships, even if we gave them away. The illusion is that we can captain someone else into what they should/could be, know or do whether from a story of victim or perpetrator, giver or receiver. No I think. Instead I will play with inviting folks to hear my thoughts for my own enjoyment and better understanding for myself. If that creates support, inspiration, ideas or even the alleviation of suffering of another then what awesome fringe benefits.
Sincerely a muse-ing you, Trella
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A new friend of mine who dotes a little on me feels great and nuturing - he was also my mommy in a past-life (very capable multi-tasking loving frontier single women). Sure is fun and downright affirming to look at past lives you share with someone in the present when they are pleasant.
I have been spending soooo much time as I would guess most folks who can do this or at least who access those like myself who can do this looking at the bad shit past lives as a means of awareness and release to create greater freedom to be who and what I am now. - You know its about investigating all those relationships and situations that dont work to understand why I choose them in the first place. Really drags on ya to always be looking at another spiritual/healer servitude past lifetime or abuse or whatever that isnt so swell to look at. Ultimately Martyr past-lives are all about a really low permission for self-acceptance/the ability to have for yourself. Also anyone playing the Spiritual superiority game ultimately has to deal with the flip side of the coin too - being treated as Inferior (from yourself and others).
As I have been cleaning up those energies and others, I have started to be able to have and attrack those experiences that are more supportive, loving a serve toward a positive experience in the body of moving towards my highest and greatest potential.
And its not just about more positive relationships I notice that they are more adult. Meaning less co-dependence and other dynamics that translate into behaviors that are needy instead instead of supportive or manipulative instead of direct/honest, for example. The more I am know I can do for myself (doesnt mean perfect or complete but just can manage for myself) the more that the old shenanegans at whatever level are necessary. Its
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Another thought for KARMA is some lack of completion (lesson not yet learned, forgiveness still pending or self-responsibility unattained).
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Here's a good one:
Love is the reality check against judgement. With love there is a way to loosen up the judgement to see what is underneath thats been un-owned or not taking responsible for within yourself.