Some relationships are “supposed” to be nourishing like a child being nourished by a parent. But that is not always the case. Often we take our conditional learned love, whether from our relationship with ourself - others - or both and use that as a definition to operate by. Sometimes that conditioning is beneficial sometimes the opposite and in most cases some of both. We need to realize, even if we were not nourished as a child that we still need and deserve to be nourished as adults. It takes great practice and awareness to step into building a new relationship for nourishing the self and your body.
Many women treat their body as the credit card they always put more debt on and only start to pay back when the credit line runs thin - of course at that point it means to pay back plus forced interest. So stay interested in self-care (which is way more than just getting your nails done or buying new shoes). Genuine self nourishment means understanding your deeper needs and true wants and being willing to navigate and negotiate getting them met even with compelling and competing needs from others (like from the cutest girl in the world). You and others including your children will both be better off for it.
“The Secret of Change is to Focus All of Your Energy Not on Fighting the Old, but on Building the New” - Socrates