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Women as we are, is Enough!  Anything Other Is Just a Lie to Control & Limit 
It was a nervous experience riding on the train and meditating while the rumbly transport took me closer and closer to my ultimate-vulnerability in full glorious cacophony and exposed display: a full nude group female photo-shoot for the grassroots non-profit www.WomenEnough.net. The group seeks to get real and positive body images of women into mass-media.


I had been looking at the human experience of mass-mythos around Eve. I was seeing how this lie of denigration of our bodies, malice towards women making initiating choices and “deserved punishment of fall from grace” weakens not only women’s natural power of wisdom, inspiration, receptivity and beauty but also weakens and undermines men’s power to partnership in relationships, and receiving the nurturance, advice and companionship from women.  An outcome of this mythos is women are kept competing against each other (this is really really really nasty stuff – not remotely anything like male competition) and inferior to men: we are made to be INHERENTLY NOT ENOUGH. This harms us all. 

So some men think “women don’t inherently know what’s best for themselves”, so they may think that they are entitled to and should directly control both women and everything else. There is much more I could say about the impacts of this deep mythos that 2/3 of the human population subscribes to at some level (Jew, Christian, Muslim). I, as I am prone, did some healing work on this. I let this belief shift to its evolved next step. It became the Woman (Eve) who with feminine confidence hands the found apple of Wisdom (i.e. Free-will and Adultness which no longer needs Father in the Sky and Mother in the Ground to be Complete) to the Man (Adam). And Adam was welcomingly receiving the Sophia/ Shekhinah/Divine Feminine Wisdom-Presence AND know he is still desired, needed and a powerful provider-protector. In the image I saw all of this and especially Eve’s hand joyfully holding and presenting the apple. This is NO SIN: this is Ownership of our innate forms feminine and masculine of power. 
 
I completely stripped for full hair and make-up (to be honest we did wear shoes from Sponsor UPHeals). I sat chatting with my beautiful makeup artist Tanya Hibbard and noticed the tattoo on her arm and asked about it. She said it was her own original design: it included a nude of herself with many arms one of which holds “The Apple”. There was the same image I saw on the train. I shared this with Tanya and we both had an amazing moment of Perfection. I felt like I could be me and that was enough and that freed me to be enough with everyone else, which made it so easy to revel in the experience of all the other lovely ladies at the shoot. Truth be told: I was the thickest chick there. But I was perfect and felt great. The founder Michelle Fetsch of Women Enough had me go first to “break the ice” and it was a joy to play in front of the camera – and if you are warm, then really clothes are so over-rated. We all got together for various group shots. It was grand. I found out later from several gals my playful, confident and energetic jump into full nudity first had loosened them up (who btw were ALL younger and thinner) to be more confident about themselves and let the last bits of clothing come off.
WOW. 

I also got to sit there watching each lady in her individual shots; I was drinking in their bodies and beauty – I was comparing and observing and appreciating and noticing and enjoying like fine art: I was in fact just being. I was not competing, hiding, invalidating/shaming/judging (myself or others) or ANY of the old crap the old mythos would have us do to ourselves. It was supremely sublime.
–Trella 

Find Out More About Women Enough:
 https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=247417458605827#!/WomenEnough
 Attend the “BARE”Women Enough Gala In San Francisco Sept 8th:
 http://womenenough.eventbrite.com/

https://ftcpublic.commentworks.com/ftc/foodmarketedtochildreniwg/
Federal Trade  Commission
Title: Notice Announcing Interagency Working Group on Food Marketed to Children and Request for Comments
Subject Category: Preliminary Proposed Nutrition Principles to Guide Industry Self-Regulatory Efforts;  Project No.
P094513
Published: To Be Added Comments Due: July 14, 2011
Add Yours!
Mine are below:
To the Governing Group/Review Group:

 The advertisers/corporations that seek to impose their short-term financial and commercial gains upon the group of our population that has the least power,  discernment and self-capability to protect themselves creates the obvious need  for the government, FTC and other regulatory organizations to step up an endorse  what is morally, ethically and honorably helpful, protective and healthy for the children of this nation. 

As someone who has worked professionally in the largest global advertising agencies in the US and abroad, worked at Corp 50 level organizations, as a  mother and as having been a child who grew up to the voice/images of the TV  being my other parent I dearly urge law-makers to do what is honorable and  protect our children by setting clear legal limits on what kinds of products can
be exposed to children.

 Children get on avgerage approximately 40 hours of media exposure a week while on average only 40 minutes of quality communication time a day with a  parent or gardian. Clearly with American adults working longer/harder to make  the US worker the most productive in the world, one of costs is quality time  with our children. So the information of advertisers, which comes in powerful as  well as subtle forms from a multitude of directions clearly out-weighs whatever  the average America parent can compete with. 

Advertisers and Corporations have brillant people AND they are very well  compensated to use that intellect, education, skill and experience to make their  companies viable to the market. By providing clear and firm limits it merely  provides another creative challenge for them to solve. This is not the end of  any company's business, it is simply the natural process of a company being able
to step up to respond to market conditions and consumer's needs and desires.  When government lets the corporation force their products or services in ways  that are out of alignment with true supply-demand economics then ultimately it  becomes a propping up of companies that are not choosing to operate and change  with regard to being healthy, seeking natural growth, flexiblity and  responsiveness in their business practices. I speak from years of Corp 50 level  experience and an MBA. You ultimately make these companies weaker by forcing the  market and consumers to meet thier needs than the other way around.

 It will ultimately serve the longer-term financial health of market-place  relevance of companies, the physical/mental/emotional health of children and the  socio-economic health of the US to take care of and do right by our children in  every way possible. 

Very sincerely yours,
Rev. Trella Davis, MBA

A Great Lie of Humanity: The Perfect Mother

A great lie is that all women are natural mothers and that we are all supposed to enjoy pursuing being a perfect mother. A Perfect Mother: is one of the greatest shams that we, as women, are beating ourselves up for not being. Or on the other side the women and men who look down on someone being “just” a mom. It is such a no-win situation. There is no "perfect" mother and just because you're female doesn’t mean you're automatically cut out for mother perfection. So now we have all been set up for the white elephant in the room which no one can state except in therapy: my mother failed me. I have looked a ton of clients and myself on this issue.
Daughters who must choose duty and sons who must prove loyal to the “perfect mother” sham are just trapped in this cycle in a whole other way with its resentments, anger, insecurity and deep questioning of themselves as if they are likable or lovable. And there is so much going on with women’s projected resentment of having to be the perfect mom or expecting our children to validate us as being the perfect mom. Then there is the gnawing of guilt that no matter how well things look on the surface the subconscious underbelly of not having done enough or lying about how great a mom you are wrecks the mind and the body on many levels.  Surprisingly even high integrity genuinely loving parents (both loving and caring at the physical and the subconscious/spiritual level) can still have children with some parental issues to work through. 

This is the problem not of us as individual mothers or certainly not as children. I think it is a failure of modern isolationism and how we practice “ownership” over our children. Humans evolved as communities where child rearing was a shared large group responsibility - our success on the planet has proved that model works. It has been only the last couple hundred years (and most
particularly the last 50) that raising children is in isolation of other members/caregivers/family.  It takes a village to raise a child, and  modern life is about isolation at every level. Mothers simultaneously resent all the burden they must shoulder and so are not fully available, present, abandoning and even abusing. But the fear and taint of being called a bad mother, as well as a deep need not to feel alone or wanting to be loved, creates parental behaviors of making children feel insecure, needy and not fully maturing into independence so they can leave the mother. I have seen this across generations and struggled with relationships with my grandmother and other female care takers, my mother, my daughter and women. I have seen those whom self is defined by mother-hood so the control that extends from this onto their children is smothering to invalidating. The mother-child relationship is such a deep bond that it takes incredible sense of self to be really free of it. 

I think it is time to give ourselves, our mothers and our children freedom by just admitting the obvious: motherhood is hard, under-valued, taxing and in a constant state of anything but perfect. And we have all been given a raw deal by expecting that one
person can, should and must be capable enough to fill all the 24/7, multitude and complex needs a child rightly has. Who can live up to that? It’s got disappointment written all over it and how does it play out similarly in romantic love (“You are my everything”). Those are some heavy to impossible expectations. It is not fair to anyone of us to keep this lie going. Be happy to share your child to the love, wisdom, caring, play and intelligence of those with good integrity if you have that opportunity (many of us do not). Educate
and enable your child to grow into a person who can meet their own needs and so when grown chooses to have an adult to adult relationship with you because they love and like you, not because they have been turned into Mama’s Boys or Approval Seeking Girls. So don’t demand perfection of yourself or that view from your children, we will all be happier and more content for it.

-Trella Davis, Mother

Limited Abundance?
I will share my silliness:
I was looking at this scarcity behavior (hoarding, jealousness, deceptive
kindness, etc.), then looked at my access to channeling Abundance [I channel a
lot of healing energies]... it was lidded up in a jar hoarded away. Argh! Well
the juice is out of the jar folks:
Gratitude-Abundance-Generosity (soft
yellow goldish looking energy). Enjoy! - Trella Davis

A Perfect Mother:
one of the greatest shams that we are beating
ourselves up for  not being. There is no "perfect" mother & just because
you're female doesnt  mean you're automatically cut out for mother perfection.

Humans evolved as  communities where child rearing was a shared
group responsibility - our success on the planet
has proved that model works.

It takes a village to raise a child
& modern  life is about isolation. So dont demand perfection of yourself or
that view from your children, you'll both be happier. -Trella Davis

This is a class project where we focused our intentions consistently on healing 
   Japan: The People, The Land and The Water. We held our intentions with
100%   focus while toning. There are also Binaural Beats embedded in the
song that   entrain your brain into Theta (especially effective when
listening on  headphones).

This song is in the Key of D as many in  esoteric circles believe is the true key of love (same as Pachelbel  Canon).
Full  Song 10 mins -  www.SoundHealingCenter.com/music.html#japan

There are needs, then there is “needy”. I make a distinction.
Depending on your childhood, your needs could be a fearful set of liabilities or
a regular opportunity to express your creativity, negotiation and flexibility
with interacting with the rest of the world.

When you haven’t been taught that its ok to have needs
and how to take care of them for yourself, you’re stuck never being able to do
the most basic foundations for yourself.  Needs get a bad rap even from the best
of us and it seems like the few who can have their needs AND the permission to
own getting them met with self responsibility can sometimes get all the
glory/the goods. Men tend to have a lot more cultural permission to meet their
needs than women but that isn’t always true either.

When you can’t honor your own needs because they are a “weakness”
or you weren’t empowered (or disempowered for that matter) to take care of and
meet your own needs, this gap happens. Your needs can never be met or you can
never help get your needs met. So now it is up to someone else to quench the
unquenchable thirst and your needs have now become the monster/enemy/hurt child
frozen in time. Only you can truly get your needs met because only you can
fully have them.

Getting a need met with or through someone or something else is
fine, not just fine but normal, not just normal but how we evolved as a
collective species of mammals – its core to what made us more successful than
reptiles and our reptilian brains. It is what we call society. We are not
islands we are humans. It is our collective interaction and collaborative
sharing on multiple sophisticated levels that makes us unique among all mammals.
We have become these incredibly isolated islands in modern culture; and so have
become needier than ever.

So celebrate and welcome your needs as valid. By listening to
yourself and letting yourself have and honor your needs, it makes it much more
satisfying and positive to go about filling and providing for them …instead of
say a bother or boring or intimidating.  

A lot of folks talk about how we’re supposed to be whole and
complete first before looking for relationships with others. I don’t agree. If
I was a complete island then why would I need you or anyone for that matter and
I can go and have my monk in the cave existence.

Needs expressed in a mature clean way (no pre-expectation or
assumption on the statement, e.g. the leading question) can become a way of
sharing, collaborating, learning and growing. And not just for the individual
but for the group, be it a group of two or seven billion. Needs can be your
friend and teacher on how to move through the world and build the character of
yourself.

-Trella