The following Posts are authored by varoius people (including myself) with the common thread being that they all had something powerful, supportive, inspiring and healing to say.
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Go from Knowing Better to Doing Better, No Really.
There are a lot of smart, capable, knowledgeable people out there
including myself who despite the best of intentions, just can’t seem to get out of being “stuck” on some issue.
Now I have both a MBA-business modern masculine perspective as
well as a Reverend-intuitive healer ancient feminine perspective to draw upon to suss out these problems. Neither on their own really seemed to have the answers to solving the core problem: why we get stuck and why we stay stuck.
But in combining them both: old and new, masculine and feminine, temporal and spiritual, analytical and intuitive to name a few key dichotomies, something else emerged that does shed light on the mechanics of engineering change entrapped stuck-muck-ness: spiritual embodied adultness. In a word:
humanity. By not deeming one side of a dichotomy as better and by working to find some balance of integration, this concept just naturally emerged for me.
By embracing my adultness, maturity and power as a human with the insight of energy or spiritual information, all kinds of things are opening up, but most profoundly is the opening of power of ownership.
I define ownership as the ability to 100% accept anything, any situation or anyone for that which it is and is not, and most importantly, neutrally observe your true relationship with it. In other words, true unbiased personal feedback. Gulp. Yes, easier said than done.
So in my quest for creating personal reliable feedback mechanisms, I created and adapted some pretty powerful and simple tools that do just that. I call it: Active Meditation. In a nut shell Active Meditation offers real-time intuitive self feedback of previously non-conscious information and drivers. It’s pleasurable to ride a cruise ship; you get to be lazy, fattened up and directed. Active Meditation is not a cruise ship. If you want to captain your own ship through calm, exotic, known or even stormy waters with greater potency, then this is where you come aboard. If sailing with the captain’s hat on is what you’re interested in, come check out my free class which showcases a few of these tools and processes if you like.
Because I love the scientific: hypothesis, evaluation, results and substantiation and I wanted to validate my work and find complementary tools.
And so I hooked up with a cutting edge brain neuroplasticity research and development group where your brain processing style can be tested.
Your brain’s way of processing non-conscious and conscious information is analyzed. Your brain’s processing style of emotion, analytical thinking, feeling and self-regulation is all measured and results reported with a detailed analysis report to boot. It was phenomenally exciting to have cutting-edge science back up what I was building intuitively. Again, if sailing with the captain’s hat on is what you’re interested in, come take the free brain process analysis test if you like.
But back to being stuck … new research indicates that Negativity Bias (‘Glass Half Empty’ – ‘I respond poorly to threats’) shows it to be the biggest indicator for mental/emotional health issues which of course provide the foundation for poor physical health. Having a natural bias towards negative emotion cues helps keep you out of danger – so there was a damned good reason for the negativity bias. But focusing on positive emotion cues is critical to enhancing your well-being. And either out of balance can cause difficulty.
The ancients used negative bias screening as the first step protocol to healing assessment/treatment:
In ancient Greece at the healing temple of Aesclepion of Pergamum (in Turkey), those wishing to be admitted to the temple for healing were told a joke. It was a test. If they could not laugh or even smile at all, then they were refused admittance for it was known that they would not let themselves heal.
Research also shows that young childhood stress (which these experiences make-up our non-conscious beliefs and patterns) plays a key role in dictating Negativity Bias. So now what can I do?
You can become aware of non-conscious beliefs and patterns and change those that harm and enhance those that help. By owning the process with support from the tools, you can address deep changes in the brain (both the brain's physical structure [anatomy] and functional organization [physiology] from top to bottom) because synapses that consistently fire together, wire together.
This is not for those looking for another thing to try out to “fix it for you” or tell you what your truth is. These are incredibly potent techniques that truly empower your freedom of choice and self-determination. You get to own your worth at new levels, but at the same time own your impacts on yourself and the world around you. I am finding I can be a lot more serious and dedicated about being happy and playfully creating. And isn’t that really what “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” actually means.
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There are needs, then there is “needy”. I make a distinction.
Depending on your childhood, your needs could be a fearful set of liabilities or
a regular opportunity to express your creativity, negotiation and flexibility
with interacting with the rest of the world.
When you haven’t been taught that its ok to have needs
and how to take care of them for yourself, you’re stuck never being able to do
the most basic foundations for yourself. Needs get a bad rap even from the best
of us and it seems like the few who can have their needs AND the permission to
own getting them met with self responsibility can sometimes get all the
glory/the goods. Men tend to have a lot more cultural permission to meet their
needs than women but that isn’t always true either.
When you can’t honor your own needs because they are a “weakness”
or you weren’t empowered (or disempowered for that matter) to take care of and
meet your own needs, this gap happens. Your needs can never be met or you can
never help get your needs met. So now it is up to someone else to quench the
unquenchable thirst and your needs have now become the monster/enemy/hurt child
frozen in time. Only you can truly get your needs met because only you can
fully have them.
Getting a need met with or through someone or something else is
fine, not just fine but normal, not just normal but how we evolved as a
collective species of mammals – its core to what made us more successful than
reptiles and our reptilian brains. It is what we call society. We are not
islands we are humans. It is our collective interaction and collaborative
sharing on multiple sophisticated levels that makes us unique among all mammals.
We have become these incredibly isolated islands in modern culture; and so have
become needier than ever.
So celebrate and welcome your needs as valid. By listening to
yourself and letting yourself have and honor your needs, it makes it much more
satisfying and positive to go about filling and providing for them …instead of
say a bother or boring or intimidating.
A lot of folks talk about how we’re supposed to be whole and
complete first before looking for relationships with others. I don’t agree. If
I was a complete island then why would I need you or anyone for that matter and
I can go and have my monk in the cave existence.
Needs expressed in a mature clean way (no pre-expectation or
assumption on the statement, e.g. the leading question) can become a way of
sharing, collaborating, learning and growing. And not just for the individual
but for the group, be it a group of two or seven billion. Needs can be your
friend and teacher on how to move through the world and build the character of
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A lie is just another form of energy to play with so it is not necessarily bad or good - the intent behind it can be "bad" or "good". The trick with a lie is that you can forget that it is a lie and then get caught in believing it yourself... then you're stuck. So choose carefully and with ownership to all possible outcomes of a lie.
Also consider more importantly what is the need to lie coming from? If it is taking inappropriate responsibility for another, not taking appropriate responsibility for self, oh the list is endless really. What is behind the need to lie is far more powerful than the lie itself. Unfortunately we as a species are one of the few species on the planet that can take indirect information and experience (another's truth whether flawed or accurate for that other person) as our own truth or as THE TRUTH. We don't need to directly expereince something to form pretty powerful beliefs/perceptions/opinions about it. This is a blessing and a bane to the human existance and also part of the foundation of free will.
Yes I just said Free Will. It is that fact that we can choose to believe or not without or with direct experience that allows us to reprogram ourselves. Freedom to decide in the present away from the habitual response based on past experiences is true choice. And choice of action based on the present information is an expression of spirit instead of staying to instinctual programming that may be coming from genes or nuturance from 0-6 years of age or any source for that matter.
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You already have everything you need within. Well who hasn't heard that like a bunch in the spiritual/personal growth/sage advice realms. The Key is to just let yourself seeit, know it, believe it. Then you can act on it. So the question is what is the place you got hurt or payoff or the illusion that you are wedded to that "makes you safe", that keeps you from knowing/seeing the truth that you already have what you need to help you reach the lessons and highest potential of this life. And in so doing best help yourself towards your goals and dreams. That is the question. And for many, including myself, it is the question of the hurt heart.
Energetically I see the back of the heart chakra as how much are you owning your heart for yourself and the inner heart as where affinity, love, forgiveness, permission, acceptance of self live. In many body therapy modalities the middle of the back is called " no man's land" because it is just so difficult for most folks to engage in movement of some sort back there. Of course much in yoga specifically addresses this area.
Just funny to me how the "no man's land" is the place we need to get to the most, to get to answering what's behind the "Why" of we're not enough/complete/loveable/etc..
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A new friend of mine who dotes a little on me feels great and nuturing - he was also my mommy in a past-life (very capable multi-tasking loving frontier single women). Sure is fun and downright affirming to look at past lives you share with someone in the present when they are pleasant.
I have been spending soooo much time as I would guess most folks who can do this or at least who access those like myself who can do this looking at the bad shit past lives as a means of awareness and release to create greater freedom to be who and what I am now. - You know its about investigating all those relationships and situations that dont work to understand why I choose them in the first place. Really drags on ya to always be looking at another spiritual/healer servitude past lifetime or abuse or whatever that isnt so swell to look at. Ultimately Martyr past-lives are all about a really low permission for self-acceptance/the ability to have for yourself. Also anyone playing the Spiritual superiority game ultimately has to deal with the flip side of the coin too - being treated as Inferior (from yourself and others).
As I have been cleaning up those energies and others, I have started to be able to have and attrack those experiences that are more supportive, loving a serve toward a positive experience in the body of moving towards my highest and greatest potential.
And its not just about more positive relationships I notice that they are more adult. Meaning less co-dependence and other dynamics that translate into behaviors that are needy instead instead of supportive or manipulative instead of direct/honest, for example. The more I am know I can do for myself (doesnt mean perfect or complete but just can manage for myself) the more that the old shenanegans at whatever level are necessary. Its
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Dr. Taylor - Brain Stroke in Left side of Brain Creates New Awareness of Right Side and Universal Consciousness
Watch her speach: http://www.ted.com/talks/view/id/229